Comments on: QUEENS FOR THE DAY http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/2010/06/queens-for-the-day/ Writer, Director, Filmmaker and Blogger Tue, 21 Feb 2012 08:05:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Janice Wright http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/2010/06/queens-for-the-day/#comment-1237 Janice Wright Mon, 07 Jun 2010 02:42:15 +0000 http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/?p=2776#comment-1237 It was a pleasure watching the film and an honor to have you and Taylor there to talk with us, Tracey. If I'd known the Q&A was going to be THAT long I might have stayed home but I'm glad I didn't. As the mom of a special-needs child I agree we have the same issues (mine's an "only" as well which makes things even worse...). Thanks so much for coming to PS 186! It was a pleasure watching the film and an honor to have you and Taylor there to talk with us, Tracey. If I’d known the Q&A was going to be THAT long I might have stayed home but I’m glad I didn’t. As the mom of a special-needs child I agree we have the same issues (mine’s an “only” as well which makes things even worse…). Thanks so much for coming to PS 186!

]]> By: michele rowe http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/2010/06/queens-for-the-day/#comment-1234 michele rowe Fri, 04 Jun 2010 13:51:34 +0000 http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/?p=2776#comment-1234 Ok, here we go...I am sitting at a meeting of my colleagues that run a parent support group for children with special needs...We are doing our calendar of workshops for next year. During our discussion, it came up about "Lucky Ducks" and that it has real value to our special needs community too. Truth is how many parents of kids with needs overcompensate and "spoil" their kids because they either don't know how to handle them, have misplaced guilt or God knows how many other reasons. Truth is kids are kids. This all leading up to.....so how does your calendar look in January, 2011? We would love for you to come over to one of my sister schools in Jamaica Estates and speak with our support group, probably anywhere from 25-60 people. Please if you can, give me a date and we will work around you. And here we go!!! Thanks, and thanks, and thanks again! Ok, here we go…I am sitting at a meeting of my colleagues that run a parent support group for children with special needs…We are doing our calendar of workshops for next year. During our discussion, it came up about “Lucky Ducks” and that it has real value to our special needs community too. Truth is how many parents of kids with needs overcompensate and “spoil” their kids because they either don’t know how to handle them, have misplaced guilt or God knows how many other reasons. Truth is kids are kids.
This all leading up to…..so how does your calendar look in January, 2011? We would love for you to come over to one of my sister schools in Jamaica Estates and speak with our support group, probably anywhere from 25-60 people. Please if you can, give me a date and we will work around you.
And here we go!!! Thanks, and thanks, and thanks again!

]]> By: LuAnn Atchison http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/2010/06/queens-for-the-day/#comment-1230 LuAnn Atchison Thu, 03 Jun 2010 18:48:51 +0000 http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/?p=2776#comment-1230 It was truly one of the highlights of my life meeting Tracey and Taylor. It is very difficult to find that one person who can truly inspire you and make you understand that we are not alone, and that for the most part, all share the same anxieties, concerns and even dysfunctionalities. I am a Parent Coordinator at a very culturally diversed school in Flushing and I was honored to be invited with parents from my school who watched the documentary here at PS/MS 164. Unfortunately, only one person was able to attend and left there with the same feelings that I did. I have nothing but the utmost respect for Taylor, to allow her life to be opened to the public. Not a easy thing to do for a teenage girl. You are truly an inspiration to other teenages. To get to meet you and to see a very poised and bright young lady, who is still willing to open up and be honest to strangers, was truly remarkable. Thank you again for coming to Queens and for showing us that parenting is not an easy skill to learn and that we will all stumble and sometimes fall. Your honesty and humor is truly refreshing. I do believe the most important message is that we cannot pretend that there are no problems because that just creates more. There is an epidemic of heroin use in the suburbs and pretending it does not exist will not help solve the problem. The "Lucky Ducks" presentation will definitely be on my calendar for next year and the years to come. And Tracey, you have also been extremely fortunate to meet Harriet Cabelly. She is also a truly amazing woman who has touched my life for the better. It was truly one of the highlights of my life meeting Tracey and Taylor. It is very difficult to find that one person who can truly inspire you and make you understand that we are not alone, and that for the most part, all share the same anxieties, concerns and even dysfunctionalities.

I am a Parent Coordinator at a very culturally diversed school in Flushing and I was honored to be invited with parents from my school who watched the documentary here at PS/MS 164. Unfortunately, only one person was able to attend and left there with the same feelings that I did.

I have nothing but the utmost respect for Taylor, to allow her life to be opened to the public. Not a easy thing to do for a teenage girl. You are truly an inspiration to other teenages. To get to meet you and to see a very poised and bright young lady, who is still willing to open up and be honest to strangers, was truly remarkable.

Thank you again for coming to Queens and for showing us that parenting is not an easy skill to learn and that we will all stumble and sometimes fall. Your honesty and humor is truly refreshing. I do believe the most important message is that we cannot pretend that there are no problems because that just creates more. There is an epidemic of heroin use in the suburbs and pretending it does not exist will not help solve the problem.

The “Lucky Ducks” presentation will definitely be on my calendar for next year and the years to come.

And Tracey, you have also been extremely fortunate to meet Harriet Cabelly. She is also a truly amazing woman who has touched my life for the better.

]]> By: Michele Rowe http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/2010/06/queens-for-the-day/#comment-1229 Michele Rowe Thu, 03 Jun 2010 17:46:58 +0000 http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/?p=2776#comment-1229 it's ok Tracey, only part of the line that was original was the EVENTUALLY, you can steal it..It was one of my wise old momma's favorites. Share it where you will! it’s ok Tracey, only part of the line that was original was the EVENTUALLY, you can steal it..It was one of my wise old momma’s favorites. Share it where you will!

]]> By: Ed http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/2010/06/queens-for-the-day/#comment-1228 Ed Thu, 03 Jun 2010 17:09:27 +0000 http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/?p=2776#comment-1228 I cannot emphasize strongly enough just how important the work you're doing is. Hopefully, the things you're doing now will not only help mothers and daughters but also the men these women end up marrying. I only wish you were around back when my wife was a young woman. In all seriousness :P--I'm all for having this played in schools rather than the outdated trash (a la Reefer Madness) or propaganda (Passion of the Christ) a lot of misguided 'adults' continue to advocate. Peace. I cannot emphasize strongly enough just how important the work you’re doing is. Hopefully, the things you’re doing now will not only help mothers and daughters but also the men these women end up marrying. I only wish you were around back when my wife was a young woman.

In all seriousness :P –I’m all for having this played in schools rather than the outdated trash (a la Reefer Madness) or propaganda (Passion of the Christ) a lot of misguided ‘adults’ continue to advocate.

Peace.

]]> By: tracey http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/2010/06/queens-for-the-day/#comment-1227 tracey Thu, 03 Jun 2010 16:31:06 +0000 http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/?p=2776#comment-1227 I love the line "what the eyes don't see EVENTUALLY the heart will feel." if i didn't like you so much Michele, I would steal it! I love the line “what the eyes don’t see EVENTUALLY the heart will feel.” if i didn’t like you so much Michele, I would steal it!

]]> By: tracey http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/2010/06/queens-for-the-day/#comment-1226 tracey Thu, 03 Jun 2010 16:29:48 +0000 http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/?p=2776#comment-1226 First time I have disagreed with you Rebecca - the part about no benefit to me - every mom I talk to - every kid I talk to - every conversation I have - I learn something. This is a place where we are all holding up the mirror for each other!!! First time I have disagreed with you Rebecca – the part about no benefit to me – every mom I talk to – every kid I talk to – every conversation I have – I learn something.
This is a place where we are all holding up the mirror for each other!!!

]]> By: Rebecca Renaud "Mandy's Mom" http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/2010/06/queens-for-the-day/#comment-1225 Rebecca Renaud "Mandy's Mom" Thu, 03 Jun 2010 16:17:02 +0000 http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/?p=2776#comment-1225 Tracey! Way to go! The truest form of Kindness - once again you reached out with no benefit to yourself to help others. I agree this movie should be seen in all schools and by all parents. You are a wonder! Tracey! Way to go! The truest form of Kindness – once again you reached out with no benefit to yourself to help others. I agree this movie should be seen in all schools and by all parents. You are a wonder!

]]> By: Sara http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/2010/06/queens-for-the-day/#comment-1224 Sara Thu, 03 Jun 2010 15:28:56 +0000 http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/?p=2776#comment-1224 They are all queens! What a group of diverse beautiful women and how great to meet them through your blog. What a great post. It takes a fearless person to look at what others are too uncomfortable to look at! They are all queens! What a group of diverse beautiful women and how great to meet them through your blog. What a great post. It takes a fearless person to look at what others are too uncomfortable to look at!

]]> By: tracey http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/2010/06/queens-for-the-day/#comment-1223 tracey Thu, 03 Jun 2010 14:47:59 +0000 http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/?p=2776#comment-1223 Great Comment! Great Comment!

]]> By: steve finer http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/2010/06/queens-for-the-day/#comment-1222 steve finer Thu, 03 Jun 2010 14:30:11 +0000 http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/?p=2776#comment-1222 after some years of perseverating about whether or not I did, or did not, nurture my son and my daughter properly - as a father, widowed when they were 15 and 13 respectively - I've long since concluded that the only criterion which matters in our frustrated efforts to guarantee a certain outcome in them as adults is the one which points to instilling in them an appropriate sense of values and social behaviors for themselves and for others. the Golden Rule is often a good point of departure. the real problem all of us face and have absolutely no control over, no matter who we are, and no matter what level of the socio-economic spectrum we are attached to, is the huge influence worldly forces and stimuli and seductions do inevitably wield upon them, and upon how they respond to society at large, out of the home environment. most of our children will make mistakes, some large ones, some small ones. they hardly ever ask us first. but if they still can call upon the gifts we gave them long ago, in times of stress, or need, or trouble, or confusion, that capacity to come back to the abiding values may wind up being enough, for them, and for us. more than this could overwhelm us with joy, and less will certainly disappoint. we shall always love them, but we have to learn to figure out, as well, how to let them go, with grace. after some years of perseverating about whether or not I did, or did not, nurture my son and my daughter properly – as a father, widowed when they were 15 and 13 respectively – I’ve long since concluded that the only criterion which matters in our frustrated efforts to guarantee a certain outcome in them as adults is the one which points to instilling in them an appropriate sense of values and social behaviors for themselves and for others. the Golden Rule is often a good point of departure. the real problem all of us face and have absolutely no control over, no matter who we are, and no matter what level of the socio-economic spectrum we are attached to, is the huge influence worldly forces and stimuli and seductions do inevitably wield upon them, and upon how they respond to society at large, out of the home environment. most of our children will make mistakes, some large ones, some small ones. they hardly ever ask us first. but if they still can call upon the gifts we gave them long ago, in times of stress, or need, or trouble, or confusion, that capacity to come back to the abiding values may wind up being enough, for them, and for us. more than this could overwhelm us with joy, and less will certainly disappoint. we shall always love them, but we have to learn to figure out, as well, how to let them go, with grace.

]]> By: Michele Rowe http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/2010/06/queens-for-the-day/#comment-1221 Michele Rowe Thu, 03 Jun 2010 12:20:48 +0000 http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/?p=2776#comment-1221 You've hit the nail right on the head. Maybe that is the fundamental difference with we public school people from Queens. We understand that what the eyes don't see EVENTUALLY the heart will feel. Our kids need love but love is not shown by the amount of"things" we give. It's structure, caring, loving discipline and plenty of honest conversations....the hard kind. You are welcome back to PS186 anytime and in fact we fully expect you to come again. Afterall, we are only a few miles away on the LIE! So many parents that missed your visit have heard from those that were here and are asking when you will be back! Remember, once you have become a part of the Castlewood Family we never let you go...welcome to the family....or should I say Tribe!! You’ve hit the nail right on the head. Maybe that is the fundamental difference with we public school people from Queens. We understand that what the eyes don’t see EVENTUALLY the heart will feel. Our kids need love but love is not shown by the amount of”things” we give. It’s structure, caring, loving discipline and plenty of honest conversations….the hard kind. You are welcome back to PS186 anytime and in fact we fully expect you to come again. Afterall, we are only a few miles away on the LIE! So many parents that missed your visit have heard from those that were here and are asking when you will be back! Remember, once you have become a part of the Castlewood Family we never let you go…welcome to the family….or should I say Tribe!!

]]> By: karen quinn http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/2010/06/queens-for-the-day/#comment-1220 karen quinn Thu, 03 Jun 2010 12:14:38 +0000 http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/?p=2776#comment-1220 Tracey, your movie should be required viewing for parents of preschooler across the country. That gives parents a view into the future that awaits them if keep spoiling their kids. There's still time! You can turn it around! I would have been a much stricter parent and less of a pushover had I seen this movie when my children were just starting school. Tracey, your movie should be required viewing for parents of preschooler across the country. That gives parents a view into the future that awaits them if keep spoiling their kids. There’s still time! You can turn it around! I would have been a much stricter parent and less of a pushover had I seen this movie when my children were just starting school.

]]> By: Nicky http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/2010/06/queens-for-the-day/#comment-1219 Nicky Thu, 03 Jun 2010 11:49:12 +0000 http://www.traceyjacksononline.com/?p=2776#comment-1219 Hi Tracey, I totally understand, how frustrating this must be. You have pointed the truth out, that schools close their eyes and of course dumb down our kids. It is so important nowadays to be alert and be open for such films as Lucky ducks (still not watched it - but it is on its way from the US to europe). I see europe going the same directions and I am very worried about it. But I also see at the same time how many parents are out there, that want to do it different. they want a life with less "things" but more familyconnections. And yes, unfortunatly only certain parents reads the right books or watch the right films and the ones that should, dont bother. But I am sure that by spreading the word and telling lots of others, will help and bring out the message. Because by doing so, you make happy parents or just more happier people, and that is how everybody wants to be. thanks for being the way you are! greetings Nicola Hi Tracey,

I totally understand, how frustrating this must be. You have pointed the truth out, that schools close their eyes and of course dumb down our kids.

It is so important nowadays to be alert and be open for such films as Lucky ducks (still not watched it – but it is on its way from the US to europe).

I see europe going the same directions and I am very worried about it. But I also see at the same time how many parents are out there, that want to do it different. they want a life with less “things” but more familyconnections.

And yes, unfortunatly only certain parents reads the right books or watch the right films and the ones that should, dont bother. But I am sure that by spreading the word and telling lots of others, will help and bring out the message. Because by doing so, you make happy parents or just more happier people, and that is how everybody wants to be.

thanks for being the way you are!

greetings
Nicola

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