PRE-ORDER BETWEEN A ROCK AND A HOT PLACE

HURRICANE RUDE HITS OUR SHORES

I don’t know if it’s because summer is ending, or everyone is really hot or perhaps (at least where we are) entitilitus has reached epidemic proportions, but the last couple weeks everywhere I go most people are behaving like total assholes.

People are abusing those who work in shops, restaurants and human kind in general. They are driving like lunatics: oh, and forget waiting for their turn in line.

Last night I was picking up some burgers and the lady ahead of me went ballistic on the poor guy working behind the counter because her sundae didn’t have enough whip cream and she felt it took him too long to make it. She insulted him terribly, calling him a moron and then asked for her money back. He kept his cool, and dumped the ice cream in the trash. What I’m sure he wanted to do was dump it on her head.

I wanted to chew her out right there,  “You idiotic, self-important bitch you realize this guy is probably holding down two jobs. He makes an hour what your stupid sundae costs, and if you want some more whip cream you can ask nicely. You can be fucking polite to people even if you misguidedly think you are superior.”

But I didn’t. I bit my tongue, smiled at him, waited my turn and gave him a nice tip.

I wasn’t sure if I was overreacting or if I was justified in my feelings. So I spent part of today chatting with friends who work in stores and restaurants, have stores and generally just know what’s up and they said I was spot on. It is clearly the summer of the obnoxious, entitled jerk gone wild.

One friend who works in a restaurant said she has been experiencing an unprecedented level of unbridled rudeness. One woman showed up an hour and a half late for her reservation and then had the nerve to call my friend an “idiotic bitch” because she hadn’t held her table. I mean who are these people?  This broad shows up an hour late and her table is supposed to be there. What planet did her ship come in from???

My friend is the most adorable girl you have ever met.  She works two jobs and always has a smile on her face even when faced with this kind of behavior. If I had been there I would have laced into that woman out too ~ well at least in my mind or in the car on the way home.

And then excuse me ~ there is a line here. What has happened to people waiting their turn? I was buying the girls ice cream night before last and I was paying when the guy behind me bellowed “I want a water.” The young girl behind the counter was a bit startled by the tone and so she handed him one.  He then thrust a twenty in front of my face as I was trying to pay for ours. “Excuse me, do you mind waiting your turn.” Maybe he was absent on we wait in line day in school, except he has had decades to figure it out.

I think people just don’t give a damn. Only their immediate needs count and they can’t be bothered to be courteous, patient or polite.

Another friend who has business said it’s been an endless parade of snooty, ill-mannered shoppers who not only insult the merchandise but the people trying to help them.

This is just not OK ~ I’m sure none of you reading this behave this way, so I’m not ranting at you. I’m ranting into the cyber waves.

And actually it’s amazing I’m here to do it as I can’t tell you how many times I have almost been plowed down by crazy people in Escalades who feel they own the road, and slowing down for a pedestrian is so not on their “to do list.”

This is what I want to know, do they only sell Escalades to people who are already assholes, or is it once behind the wheel  you instantaneously transform into one?

Perhaps the Hurricane Earl will wash away some of this bad behavior or maybe the fall leaves will change people’s moods. Glenn feels it’s to much reality TV and that everyone has turned into the cast of Jersey Shore and the Real Housewives. Not sure how he came up with this theory as he doesn’t watch the shows.

I don’t actually know what is causing it. But I do know it’s takes just as much time to be kind to someone as it does rude.  And at the end of the day most people are doing the best they can. So if your sundae is not everything you want it to be, put yourself into the shoes of the person making it, do you think their life is everything they want it to be?  Once you ask yourself that I think it’s much easier to smile and say thank you.

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  • Peter Manso

    An asshole is an asshole is an asshole. And whether it’s the Hamptons or Ptpown, August always brings it out.

  • Brainerd

    Scintillations, Tracey,
    You’ve beautifully captured the swirling waves of entillitis which cause much suffering and resentment.
    If only all of us kept the Golden Rule luminously in mind as we interact with each other every day. Thanks for the clarion call…

  • http://www.testingforkindergarten.com karen quinn

    Wow, I guess I’m glad I’m not in the Hamptons in August. I’m in Miami and spent time in Manhattan and Denver this month. But I didn’t encounter any significant rudeness or line cutting. I think the Hamptons may just be a case of too many privileged people in too small a space. I feel terrible for all the people trying their best to serve them. Tracey, I love the way you notice everything.

  • http://www.justinehardy.com Justine Hardy

    Well, here’s the whacky Indian astro point of view. The stuff going on up there is as bad as it gets at the moment. It is creating anger, selfishness, conflict, disaster and well, heavy doses of entitlitis. It’s supposed to ease up around September 27th, so hang on to your mantras until then. Om di Om di Dom.

  • http://www.elderlawattorney.com Ted Schofner

    Oh my, I am so tired of the name droppers, the brand bullies and the self-entitled nouveau rich. I thought the goal was to have your name in the paper twice in your life: your birth announcement and your obituary. Understatement is the prize and the humble improve…

  • http://!!! PEnelope

    I can’t say I’ve seen much of it here; but I did say to someone being rude to a waitress:

    “How dare you speak to her that way????” And she quieted down and apologized!

    I think it is good to call people on bad behavior!

  • Jake

    Entitilitus – it used to be that gout was the disease of the rich and profligate but a new age and a new disorder for the over-priviledged. I think I liked gout better for the assholes. Yes, they could abuse themselves and everyone else but they paid a price; there was physical pain. I think this phenomenum has something to do with new money and old money. Entitilitus is rampant on the west side of L.A. – from Malibu to Bel Air – I think David Geffen has devoted another wing at UCLA Medical Center to try and find a cure. Of course, this is where the nouveau grosso mansionize their homes and their egos. But since I moved to Pasadena, where the old, quiet, somewhat constipated wealth resides, entitilitus is viewed for what it is – gauche, contemptible, but more to be pitied than censured. After all, what can you expeect from these cretins? seems to be the backhand of the noblesse obligers. That’s why I love Pasadena – the scorn is so genteel, so condescending in the most charming way. But there is hope for the afflicted. It is my experience that some of those who are currently infected with entitilitis may eventually outgrow the illness and go on to live productive, generous, kindly lives. As for the other 99%…..

  • Michele

    Entitilitis is a disease that crosses all socio-economic lines. In the 10 hour per day, 5 days per week, 8 weeks of the summer FREE day camp that 100 children attended this year, I have a staff of mostly HS and college kids making minimum wage. Every year at orientation, I advise our mostly middle to upper-middle class parents that certainly tipping the counselors is not only acceptable but appropriate considering how hard these kids work all summer. So, camp ended last week….not only did most of the parents NOT tip the staff and not even extend a verbal “thank you” to nary a soul, many were rather put out because they didn’t have free babysitting for the rest of the summer. They actually had the audacity to ask what were they supposed to do with their kids till school opened!! It doesn’t cease to amaze me that after saving literally thousands of dollars in camp costs, some people can’t throw a few counselors a ten or twenty dollar bill in a card that says “thanks for keeping my child safe, happy and occupied all summer?” By the way, these people drive everything from BMWs to Mercedes to Cadillacs to Hyundais. What we have learned is the ones driving the Hyundais tend towards being slightly less crude, rude and socially maladjusted…but only slightly. Sad but true.

  • tracey

    Wow MIchele that story sucks big time. I can’t imagine ~ well I can. And the camp is FREE! I will say at my kid’s camp the parents do feel they have to tip, though then they stand around with the Escalade motors running comparing notes on how much they did tip. If they find out someone gave more they either feel guilty, but that group is small or they tell you you tipped too much and they feel superior. I think these kids work their asses off and most of them are working their way through school. If some is driving a Mercedes to drop their kid at a FREE camp I think two hundred dollars would be the appropriate Thank You for the head counselor and a hundred each for the assistants. People really piss me off and your story is worse than the nasty woman with the sundae And I agree it does cross socio-economic lines, but when did it happen? Thank you for sharing your story. Miss You! We need to have our dinner!

  • gail

    As I too am in the service industry, i find that this year is a special breed of entittled. I choose to kill them with kindness because at the end of the day I truely feel sorry for them. It takes an unhappy and dark soul to treat another person this way.

  • tracey

    Taking the high road is always the best choice ~ at the end of the day you know you have done the right thing!

  • jody martini

    The renters in the house next door to me this summer had six cars parked overnight on most days. (in other words, I think they were “sharing” which is not allowed any more). Their pool was full of screaming children all day, every day. Not once did anyone tell them not to scream all day long because the entire neighborhood could hear them and might want to relax a little. Today is officially the day that all the rude people must go back to where they came from. In my office in East Hampton they had an expression that you probably have heard. “Summer people, summer not.” Need I say more? I am really looking forward to a beautiful and quiet fall in Sagaponack. Our pool will be open a little while longer if you want to come for a visit.

  • tracey

    You are so sweet. I wish we could come over for a swim. We packed up last week and went back to city. Our house is now tented for some plaster surgery! Sorry you had the screaming neighbors especially with Guilio recovering See you in the city!!!

  • http://lippetaylor.com Jerry Taylor

    Why should we be surprised at bad behavior when it is all over television in the guise of reality shows. i think it was Joy Behar who said, “when are we going to stop rewarding people for bad behavior.” Talking about Linsey Lohan.
    JT

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